Dating is already pretty tough in this day and age. Unfortunately, living in New York City can make things even more challenging. In a lot of cases, it can be downright impossible.
In theory, dating in NYC should be a breeze. You’re talking about a city with millions of people, tons of opportunities to meet those people, and a seemingly endless array of bars, restaurants, museums, parks, and everything else you could want. And since the cost of living in NYC continues to be ridiculously high, you have what can feel like a built-in excuse to move in together, if that’s the direction you want to go in.
All of this is more or less true. At the same time, there are some enormous, unique obstacles to NYC dating that must be kept in mind:
1. Distance is a relationship killer: On paper, the distance between Williamsburg and Washington Heights may not seem like a huge deal (it’s about 13 miles from one to the other). But when you factor in public transportation or taxis, 13 miles quickly feels like 13 million miles.
2. Concentration: Let’s be real here. We’re not saying you’re a bad person who can’t commit. All we’re saying is that in a city of endless potential and possibilities, we’re only human.
3. New York survival emphasizes the individual: In order to get by in this electric, often punishing city, you generally have to take self-preservation to the extreme. When it comes time to cut out the luxuries (like food or electricity), your relationship may just have to go on the chopping block.
4. We’re busy: Keeping up with work in New York City alone can be an exhausting constant. When we do get an odd moment alone, do we really want to stress out over a first date?
Is it worth it? Sometimes, but it sure isn’t easy. Share your story below!