Benefits of Online Dating

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I am happy to say the negative stereotypes about online dating have been defeated. People are not only filling out their profiles in the privacy of their own home, they are also trying to find a match via their mobile phones while sitting in traffic or grocery shopping.

Now that we are no longer trying to convince the world that online dating is an acceptable and “cool” practice, I can focus on presenting you with the positives that come with searching for that soulmate via the internet.

Lists, Show Me The lists!  

1-In today’s world, there’s a dating site for everyone. Much like when advertising your product, you are able to choose a site that caters to your exact preference or demographic of choice.

  • who are waiting until marriage
  • Vegetarian dating for vegetarian singles
  • Men finding men
  • Dating site for Apple fans.
  • Sparkology- Young NYC professionals

2- Always struggling to express your achievements and background when meeting someone? While online dating, you are able to show off your best qualities via an AboutMe section without sounding overly cocky or obnoxious.

3- Filters. Lot’s of them. Some sites allow you to filter your matches by height, ethnicities, location, income, religion, etc. The really great sites, like Sparkology, filter your results for you. They have pre-screened all possible matches and only show you other educated professionals in your area.

4- Talking online helps ease your nerves when meeting in person for the first time.

5- Variety. No time to mope around while feeling rejected. If it doesn’t work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea, just a click away!

5- Cats out of the bag- everyone on there is looking to meet someone else. When you walk into a bar, you aren’t sure who is single or open to a relationship etc. This is especially true for sites the members pay for like Sparkology. Most people won’t pay for a dating site they don’t intend to take seriously.

6- He/She obviously finds you attractive. No need to play the guessing game with regards to looks.

7- Everyone’s doing it and most people have had success. Check out Sparkology’s list of happy endings here.

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23 Fun Facts About Dating

Fun Facts About Online Dating

Interesting facts about the dating world that might make you laugh, smile, freak-out and share!

  • Most couples are willing to enter an exclusive relationship after six to eight dates.
  • Most common time for breakups is around three to five months.
  • It takes between 12-14 dates before couples will trade house keys.
  • Women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t.
  • Men who report incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more emails than those with $50,000.
  • On free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are from scammers.
  • Ninety-two percent of single parents would rather date other single parents.
  • 33% of online daters form a relationship.
  • In a survey of 5,000 singles, 43% said fresh breath mattered the most, 17% said stylish clothes, 15% said sexy fragrance, 14% said good skin, and 10% said great hair.
  • It is suggested you wait until the third date to cook someone dinner at home.
  • Nearly 40% of men do not feel confident meeting a women for the first time.
  • Women will base 55% of her initial impressions of a man on his appearance and body language.
  • Dating specialists suggest that if a woman doesn’t return a call after two messages, she’s not interested.
  • If a woman offers to pay for everything, chances are she isn’t into the date.
  • Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.
  • Twenty to forty million Americans have used online dating services.
  • Nearly 50% of online daters are aged 18-34
  • Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.
  • 48% of online daters reported that their breakups occurred via email.
  • Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.
  • On average, daters will kiss on a second date.
  • On average, couples have sex within about four to six dates.
  • The third week in September is National Singles Week in the U.S

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10 Signs You Are Ready For A Relationship

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A relationship won’t work if you aren’t ready. Despite the weight loss, new wardrobe, new job, new apartment or new social circle, finding the right match is all about timing

How do you know you are relationship ready?

I’ve come up with the following 10-item checklist you should complete before taking the plunge.

  1. You have a handful of good friends.  By good, I mean really good. Friends you can count on for anything. I’m talking about the ones who will always answer your phone calls, emails and texts. It is extremely important to have a strong support group.
  2. Your past relationships are in your past. You no longer think about the what ifs, why’s, how, or maybe later. You don’t get angry at the mention of their name and you definitely don’t stalk their social media sites.
  3. You are okay being alone. You don’t need a bodyguard or safety blanket to run to the market or mall. You are comfortable grabbing a bite to eat at the corner coffee shop without needing another person to sit next to you.
  4.  You have your own interests and hobbies. You have taken the time to establish your own “happy list”.  These are activities that help define who you are as an individual. Whether its going to the beach, cycling or attending a craft fair, you take the time to do things that make you smile.
  5. You know what you don’t want. You’ve learned from your past mistakes, and you know what you are not willing to put up with again. Standards and boundaries.
  6. You have a good idea of where you want to be in 5 years. It is important to have your own set of goals. This will give you a sense of independence, which is an important quality to have.
  7. Confidence. You are comfortable in your own skin. Make-up free, instagram filter free, and true to yourself.
  8. Emotional Availability. You have the ability to  both trust someone else and express how you feel.
  9.  You aren’t pessimistic about love. You believe it can happen and that it will happen.
  10. You are willing to explore options to find your match.  






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How To Be A Modern Gentleman In 10 Ways

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Truth: today’s dating rules are very different from the ones our parents lived by in the past. Living in a big city like New York or Washington DC, you rarely get picked up and driven by your date. Today, women are just as able as men to have a great self-supporting job. Additionally, you can get away with sending an email or text instead of a phone call.  Is chivalry dead? I think not. Insert the “Modern Gentleman”.

Ideally, you want to take the best rules that are still relevant from the past and combine them with our modern-day standards.

A Few Things That Haven’t Changed

  • Make Eye Contact
  • Open Every Door
  • Be on time
  • Provide Compliments
  • Ask questions

A Few Things That Have

  • No need to order for her, but definitely let her order first
  • Walk her to her cab, bus or train
  • No cell phones out while on your date 
  • Make sure everyone has their plate before you start eating
  • Text, E-mail or Call after your date to say you had a great time and would like to schedule a second date, if she is interested





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Do More Choices Lead to Better Success Rates When Online Dating?

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Picture this: you walk into a bar, packed with hotties. I’m talking tons. Everywhere you turn, everyone is your type. Fast-forward 10 minutes, how many do you think you’ve spoken to? I’ll give you a hint: 0-3 tops

The Curse of Choice

People often find themselves asking for choices, but when choices are actually offered, they are rarely used. Do more choices lead to better success rates and more satisfied clients? Truth is, they don’t.

Sparkology is very familiar with the theory behind the “curse of choice”.  Rather than overwhelm your brain, we believe in providing you with the cream of the crop and narrowing your search for you.

Barry Schwartz, psychology professor at Swarthmore College and author of The Paradox of choice: Why More is Less, states that having increased options doesn’t necessarily make people happy. As the number of choices increase, negative aspects begin to appear. Additionally he states, “as the number of choices grows even further, we become less satisfied with the options we’re given, and the negatives escalate until we become overloaded.”

Here are the facts:

  • Your brain works through process of elimination. Rather than choosing what you want, you are more likely to eliminate what you don’t want. Therefore, more choices generally just means more work.
  • The more you need to eliminate the harder it is to choose one thing.
  • Many psychologists have actually found that there may in fact be a correlation between people’s sense of unhappiness and the amount of choices available to them.
  • When people are faced with excessive possible selections research shows that people suffer from depression, grief, and sadness

While some choice is good, too many choices are not! This also explains the reasoning behind filters. At Sparkology, we’ve done the filtering for you. While we don’t have the millions of profiles you’d find on OKCupid or Match, we have people you actually want to meet. If you find yourself using a filter, you too believe in the curse of choice and agree with our research.

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What’s the Best First Message to Send to Someone via Online Dating?


Congratulations Sparks! You’ve managed to receive an invitation and activate a profile on Sparkology, the best online dating site for young professionals! Now what?!

Let’s face it, that first message is extremely important. How can I show how awesome I am in a few short sentences? Should I try to summarize my resume? I want them to think I am funny, intelligent, talented, charismatic and outgoing, but how can this be done? Should I include job references?

Do not fear Sparks, I am here to help you!

Five Steps to an Awesome First Message

  • Step One – Start off with a simple greeting followed by your first name. Make things personal. No girl wants to read an initial message directed to “ the most beautiful girl in the world”. These greetings sound like a mass text or a fisherman looking to catch the quickest and easiest bait.
  • Step Two - Keep it simple. Ask them how their day was. Don’t overanalyze.
    Try to make them smile because humor makes magic. How about a corny pick up line followed by a “ did that work?” You can also send a random fact you looked up on Google followed by a “ bet you didn’t know that one!”
  • Step Three - Show them you took the time to look at their profile and didn’t just quickly skim through their pictures.
  • Step Four - Set the scene up for a response. Ask them a question about themselves. This will open the door for the chit-chat you are looking for!
  • Step Five – End the message with a friendly phrase that isn’t overly dramatic. Examples: Hope to hear back from you soon or Talk soon.

Sample Messages

Here are some examples to get you started:


Hi Brian!

My name is Rebecca. How are you? I really enjoyed reading your profile. I see you went to UPenn; I went to school at Temple University and loved Philadelphia! I’m sure you’d love to hear about my awesome Philly cheese steak recipe ;)

Hope to hear back from you soon,


Hey Stephanie,

Nice to “meet” you, my name is Luke! How’s your workweek going? According to the Google fact of the day women are more influenced by how a man smells than how he looks! Would you like a list of my colognes now or after our first date?
On a serious note, I loved reading your profile and I look forward to hearing more about your volunteer work with the humane society!

Looking forward to chatting with you,


Hello there,

My name is Noah and I also studied abroad in China! What was your favorite part of the experience? I really enjoyed going to the local markets and experiencing a different culture. Would love to practice my Chinese with you over dumplings one day. Just kidding, we can do burgers instead.

Anxiously waiting for your reply,


Hola Nick,

My name is Sofia and I am originally from Puerto Rico! I see you work for the Mexican Embassy here in DC. How do you like it? Do you get free Mexican food? If so, I’m totally down to hang out with you haha Mexican cuisine is my absolute favorite! How do you like Georgetown?



Happy dating everyone!

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