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Hey Sparklers! I figured it would make your life easier if you had a “map key” with some of our Sparkology images and their meanings. Please feel free to comment below on symbols you feel we have missed or navigational questions you would like answered ;)

Messages Towards the top right of your screen if there is a red bubble with a number in it, that means you have x number of unread messages!
Messages This symbol simply means that their primary school listing has been verified by your Sparkology team ;)
greenactive This symbol means the user has been online recently!
fb The user has a Facebook profile that has been verified by your Sparkology team.
referrals These symbols mean that the user has referred friends to our site. If you refer one friend, you get a single white badge. If you refer two friends, you get the double person white badge and once you hit three completed referrals your profile is granted a gold badge!
block Once you are browsing through someones page, you may click this button to block them from contacting you and viewing your profile.
hide This button can be clicked to get rid of someone from your browsing list. Hiding their profile means you won’t see them anymore.
like Click this button if you’d like to save this profile for later viewing. Think of it as creating your own “favorite’s” list!
smile By clicking this button you can send an instant “smile” to the other user. This is our very own version of a virtual “wink”!
filters When browsing there are 5 different ways to view people. 

  1. You can either add in your own search filters (age, location)
  2. Search only new profiles by checking the New box
  3. Search through your “favorites” list by clicking the “I liked” box.
  4. Search through people who have viewed your profile recently.
  5. entering a specific Sparkname
archive This allows you to save their message in a folder so that you can visit it later!
leave-date-feedback After going on a date, you can leave the Sparkology team feedback about how the date went! This allows us to hear about our users and to help make sure we have great and honest people.
lightgreydarkgrey Notice the difference in shades of grey? While browsing, the profiles with a grey background are profiles you haven’t clicked on. Profiles that appear with a black background are profiles you have viewed before.

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What Does Your Job Say About You?

As you know there are definite correlations between certain personality traits and your profession. This is the reason for the testing often done to match you with your perfect job.

What does your profession say about your personality? There are all kinds of professionals on Sparkology. Is there a certain profession that you would mesh best with? We thought it would be helpful to know a little more about how one’s job can define their persona.

Here is the breakdown: 

professionals in online dating

1-  Marketing: Ambitious and creative. You enjoy using your brain to resolve abstract problems. You are social and outgoing. Extrovert, intuitive, thinkers, judgers.

2- Sales: Confident and outspoken. You have no trouble speaking your mind and stating your dislikes. You go after what you want and nothing stands in your way. Extrovert, sensors, feelers and judgers. 

3- Doctor:  Straightforward and honest people who prefer action to conversation. Introvert, sensors, thinkers and judgers. 

4- Lawyer: Patient and meticulous. Detail oriented and often times a perfectionist. You are a realist who is quick to make decisions. Extroverts, sensors, thinkers and judgers. 

5- CEO: Creative perfectionists who prefer to do things their own way. Introverts, intuitive, thinkers and judgers. 

6- Human Resources: Thoughtful, creative people driven by firm principles and personal integrity. Introverts, feelers, judgers and intuitive.

7- Finance: Hard worker who values your responsibilities and commitments. Love excitement and excel in a crisis. Introverts, sensors, thinkers and judgers. 

8- Education: Gregarious traditionalist motivated to help others. Introvert, sensors, feelers and judgers.

9- Accounting: Hard worker who values your responsibilities and commitments. Introverts, sensors, thinkers and judgers. 

10- Journalist: Curious and confident creative types who see possibilities everywhere. Extroverts, intuitive, feelers and perceivers.

For more information and more job to personality matches visit http://www.businessinsider.com/best-jobs-for-every-personality-2014-9.

 

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36 Questions to Strengthen Your Love

How to fall in love in online dating and off

Arthur Aron conducted a study that explored whether intimacy accelerated a relationship. Ultimately, he and his team, came up with the following 36 questions which are thought to help increase your love for each other.

You may notice the questions are broken up into three sets. Each set is intended to be more probing than the previous one.

Does this work? You be the judge!

 Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set 2

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

 Set 3

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

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Happy Couple Checklist

how to be a happy couple in an online dating world

1- EFT=  electronic free time. Having your eyes glued to a smartphone screen isn’t exactly conducive to romance! Schedule time for just the two of you. Dinner, Saturdays, or an hour before bed. Make the deal and stick to it ;)

2-  Do it. At least once a week. The average American gets busy about two or three times a month, but increasing your romps to once a week generates as much bliss as scoring an extra $50,000 in income, according to researchers from Dartmouth College and the University of Warwick in England.

3. Ask exploratory questions! You can never know enough about someone else. The questions about life, opinions and advice should be constant ;) Examples: What would you do if you win the lottery? What makes you happy? What do you like most about life?

4- Be realistic and know that everyone makes mistakes.

5- Allow for your significant other to disagree. Ultimately you shouldn’t be looking to date yourself. Respect each other’s opinions and allow for obstacles. Working through these obstacles together increases happiness and a couples bond.

6- Give each other compliments. It is always important to be positive and express your gratitude!

7- Do nice things for each other.

8- Recall moments that involved “shared laughter”.

9-  Stop pointing fingers. People make mistakes. Focus on solving the problem and working together as partners. Don’t get caught up on trying to find who’s to blame.

10- Kiss a lot. Kiss good morning, kiss good night, and kiss many times in between.

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Wedding Season Blues

how singles find a date at a wedding

As summer approaches, so does the infamous wedding season! Although coming together with old friends and family to celebrate the union of two very important people in your life should be a joyous occasion, it is perfectly normal to feel slightly down at the same time. Some experience feelings of depression, shame, anger, and sadness.

While this may sound selfish to others, attending wedding after wedding as a single guest is no easy task.

Most Common Points of Panic

  1. Will I be losing a friend?
  2. Do I need to find a date?
  3. Will others be wondering why I don’t have a date?
  4. If I bring a date, will others be wondering why we aren’t married?
  5.  Will I ever find love?
  6. Will I ever get married?

New research from USC’s Marshall School revealed that reminding consumers of relationships they don’t have reduces their sense of ‘deservingness’.

How to Get Out of Your Funk

  1. Make sure you wear an outfit that makes you feel confident! Your level of confidence will have a huge impact on your ability to let lose and have fun at the wedding.
  2. Stop thinking in terms of what you don’t have an focus on what there is to be grateful for!
  3. I can almost assure you that you won’t be the only single person at the wedding.
  4. On that note, you might even meet your significant other while partying the night away!
  5. Sign up for Sparkology and find the match you are looking for. There is still time to find that perfect date!

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How to End an Awkward Conversation on a Date

How to get out of a bad date

What’s worse than being stuck on a horrible date and having to engage in an awkward conversation? I can fully relate to the anxiety provoked by such a horrible situation. Sometimes you just don’t click.

The worst is when you run into them again on the street, after ignoring endless calls and texts. As you feel your blood pressure rising, you desperately feel the need for an exit strategy.

What Do You Do? 

I am here to help you escape that uncomfortable encounter in the quickest and easiest way possible.

A San Jose University graduate student conducted a study on the best way to end an awkward conversation and he came up with the following chart:

How to get out of a bad onlne date

As you can see, the best ways to exit a conversation are through the use of polite hinting, making excuses or turning the tables. The worst ways to end a conversation is by simply vanishing, being restless ( stop the fidgeting!) or simply being rude.

Examples 

1- If you are in a rush and need to get out of there you can just wrap things up abruptly

  •  “I’ve got to go”
  •  “ Take it easy, it was nice seeing you!”

2- If you meet them by coincidence on the street

  • “ It was good running into you, I’m on my way to meet _____!”
  •  “I’ve got a conference call I need to get ready for!

3- If you see them at a party

  • “I’ve got to go find my friends!”
  •  “ Please excuse me, I just saw someone I’ve been meaning to catch up with!”

4- If you are on a date

  • “ Thank you so much to taking the time to meet with me, but I’m not sure we are the right fit.”
  • “ I have a meeting in an hour, so we can really only meet for 45 minutes.”

PS-  When meeting someone for the first time, play it safe and meet for a drink or coffee. Keep it simple so that if things don’t click, you aren’t “stuck” for long.  But if you do click… then clear your calendar and enjoy the sparks!

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